Our Attitude Versus Other People’s Attitude

 It’s July 2021 and well, tonight I decided to update my blog with words and only words since I am not using my laptop to do this. So, let’s hope this is going to be a short one. Now, where do I begin? As written on the title, this post is going to be talking on the attitude topic. Before I move further, let us look at the questions below:

1. Have you ever wonder why people act weirdly to you when they used to be so nice?

2. Have you ever realised you may have been a pain in the ass for so many times but people only reacted to your attitude once or twice?

3. How confident are you that you are being a good person when you mostly only being with those who make you feel good about yourself?

4. Do you consider yourself a good person when you always get mad with people who are being honest with you about your bad attitudes and styles?

5. Do you think you are a good person when you always see the bad in those whom you defy?

So, to answer these five questions I will be giving my own opinion that I might use on those around me or vice versa.

Question 1.

Have you ever wonder why people act weirdly to you when they used to be so nice? 

Well, if you are a good person in my opinion, these questions might appear in your thought once a while because I believe a good person always do self evaluation more than evaluating others. However, if it never appear then that’s the end of conversation for you. So, to answer this question, the best advice I could share is look at what you did wrong before you even look for what was wrong with the other person whom you feel treated you unfairly. By doing this, you will then realise what makes the other person treated you differently (in a way you feel irritated or uncomfortable).

Question 2.

Have you ever realised you may have been a pain in the ass for so many times but people only reacted to your attitude once or twice? 

So, for this one I have two reminders that might be useful for you. Firstly, you really need to start changing that bad attitude before you lose more real friends and start collecting fake friends. Secondly, you really need to see and learn to admit your bad attitude before people started to ignore your bad attitude and pretend that they are fine with it while they don’t. When this happens, that person who used to be your real friend may have changed to be another fake friend of yours because of you yourself.

Question 3. 

How confident are you that you are being a good person when you mostly only being with those who make you feel good about yourself?

To answer this, look at yourself first. Do you being with these people as your friend because they need you or you need them more? If you think you can live without them then perhaps you are indeed a good friend bur if being with other people who are not like them in which you find others intimidating, unlike your circle of friends then, it is you who need them more because the fact that they make you feel good doesn’t necessarily means that your good attitude makes them treated you nicely, most of the time it is their kindness that makes them treat you nicely. This is because, they are good people. They treated you better than you treated them.

Question 4.

Do you consider yourself a good person when you always get mad with people who are being honest with you about your bad attitudes and styles?

For this one, the answer is simple. You may not be good enough if you get mad at people who tells you what you did was wrong or you should have acted differently. When people are being honest to you, it means that they don’t want you to be embarrassed of your own attitude when dealing with more people out there. Besides, others may not being truly honest to tell you straight to your face when you acted badly but there is no guarantee that you won’t be their table topic once you are out of the picture. So, be grateful when they are someone who dare enough to pointed out your flaws honestly and not fake it up.

Question 5.

Do you think you are a good person when you always see the bad in those whom you defy?

For this one, I will be honest. You are obviously not a good person if you always sees the bad in those whom you defy. Why? It is too obvious that your judgment on them are not based on the good they have in them but purely made by you based on you own perception, personal experience and judgemental mind which leaves no spot to see any kindness in that person whom you defy, because when its you, you defy who, you defies. This attitude alone shows you really are not a good person.

So, there we go. All 5 questions for self check whenever you feel people are being unfair to you or treated you badly. Look at it to see were you the one who were  always being bad or were you the one who used to be good but now being bad? The answer lies within you.

That is all for now. Thank you for reading.

By Adam Jodrie

(1st blog entry typed and posted using ipad air 4 aged 1 month something)